Many people believe that a partnership is a process by which two people can meld into one. It is unhealthy for you and harmful for the relationship to try to combine your identity with someone else. Things usually go wrong when a couple loses their self-attraction to one another and falls into the habit. Genuine relationships are replaced with a false sense of kinship or “fantasy bond.” This sensation of oneness tames passion in a relationship. You can keep passion and attraction alive by retaining your individuality. This will include engaging in separate and shared interests, maintaining connections outside of your relationship, and always trying new things.